Are You Pouting Or People Pleasing?

ARE YOU POUTING OR PEOPLE PLEASING?

The first step towards self confidence is not being afraid to be ugly or disliked. Nobody is perfect, so stop trying to be. Focus on your strengths, not your perceived imperfections, and watch your life bloom. Water your own garden and stop weeding for others.
Once you get over the fear of being seen as ugly or unpopular and stop equating beauty with other good things in life (friends, love, happiness) it’s a lot easier to love yourself unconditionally.

Beauty is an inside job, and our exterior should amplify these qualities. You do not have to be pretty to receive love. You do not have to swallow your words or your pride to be accepted. You will never be too much in the right company. So take a course, book a holiday, travel solo, invest in yourself. Don’t worry so much about your itty bitty titties or those wrinkles gathering around your eyes.

Because guess what ? Your looks will fade, sis, it’s inevitable. Botox at 40 might be beautiful, but it still looks like Botox at 40. And those partners who only saw your beauty as skin deep will fade away as your body begins to age. Those people you worked so hard to people please? Gone as soon as you put your foot down and show the authentic you. So learn to see those smile lines as the result of a life well lived. Those frown lines as the proof of wisdom gained through experience.

Your job is not to sit around taking shit and being easy on the eye.
Your job is to do exactly what fills your heart and soul with happiness, and look however you want whilst doing it.

I once got told I look ugly when I cry. Imagine being expected to be visually pleasing while your heart is breaking? I guess I missed that class in school…you know, the one where they take all the girls aside and teach them to sob prettily into a handkerchief? So that guy had to go!
My advice is this:

Don’t hide how you feel to make other people more comfortable.

Wear that dress

Say the thing that’s been on your mind

Be wild

Be unconventional

Be unapologetic about the passions that course through your veins

Cultivate boundaries like a motherf*cker.

You only get this one shot to live this life.
So live it to the full.
Live it with authenticity.
Find your soul’s tribe and to hell with the rest.
Carpe Diem bitches.