HER 4 STAGES OF BREAK-UP

The 4 Stages of Break-up.

When a man no longer wants a woman, he gets meaner. He manufactures conflict.
When a woman no longer wants a man, she gets calmer, more reserved. She removes herself emotionally out of self protection.

He sabotages the relationship to make it end. Creates problems out of projection.
She eventually withdraws and takes back her peace.

This is not all men, but a lot of men get busy outside of the relationship, drinking, gaming, women. Her calm is subtle but final. She stops talking, stops fixing and creates an exit plan.

He is out looking for greener pastures, a woman who won’t hold him accountable, who is more tolerant and does not speak up for herself. Someone who doesn’t know him well enough yet to see the demons you tried to fight with him. (Sometimes it’s her)
She realises the future she wanted with him isn’t there, that she was trying to love that man into a place he was never headed towards. A future together. So she she takes her energy back. Calls her girlfriends, talks it out, gets colder.

It happens in stages, not overnight.
Stage 1, she is fighting for the relationship. The long texts, the angry responses to his mistreatment. Trying to make him see his destructive actions.
Stage 2, she becomes exhausted. Walking on egg shells and living in survival mode.
Stage 3 looks like weighing up whether it’s worth it or not. And if the scales are tipping, she’ll eventually arrive at stage 4.
She mentally checks out, until she finally walks out, for good.

He mistakes her silence and withdrawal for victory, or compliance. For peace. And wonders why the breakup came ‘out of nowhere’

Do you recognise this pattern?

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