Why do I teach pole, burlesque, the sensual arts? I don’t usually post pole dance on my life coaching page, but here is why;
It makes you strong, oh yes. But more importantly it creates a sisterhood. A safe space of non-judgement amongst women, which can be truly rare. A space of non-judgement towards yourself, even more rare.
That pole can be the most beautiful partner. One who is always there to dance with you. Holding you up, teaching you to appreciate your curves. Because pole dance or burlesque is not about men. We aren’t waiting for men to define beauty, we are defining it together, for ourselves.
It’s about women reclaiming their bodies, realising their fat rolls or stretch marks are testament to a unique life in perpetual motion, and part of the whole woman. Still sexy. Still beautiful. The story behind a life well lived. The story behind grief, despair, triumph, reclamation. Sovereignty.
You don’t have to be 20 and slim to love your body (but if you’re there I hope you do). You just need to let yourself feel the motion of your hips, lose yourself in the swing of the music, close your eyes and appreciate the jiggle. Say yes to yourself, to your body, to your sensuality.
Dancing in ecstacy has no age limit, no waist size, It’s an invitation to let yourself go. To look inwards and feel your womb, feel your power, feel your vulnerability. Feel it all. . The shift you need isn’t about toning your body. It’s about learning how to express ecstasy and love in the body that you showed up in today. The body that carried your children or survived your last relationship disaster. Her. She.
It’s about choosing you, seeing you, embracing the hot mess and finding beauty in the chaos of your imperfect perfection. It’s about embracing you.
I am a life coach and wellness coach, with a special interest in relationships and woman empowerment. T/DR Candice Baker 00013133614 You can book a session with me on WhatsApp +0027833613255
I don’t often do personal posts, but here we are! What’s your love language? Have you ever felt that the things you do for your partner are unappreciated? No matter how much effort you put into them? That’s because we all wish to be loved in different ways! But it goes deeper than that, we simply don’t recognise certain things as acts of love, because of how we are wired.
For example, my love language is ‘quality time’, I don’t like it if you whip out your phone at dinner. Undivided attention from my partner has the biggest impact for me and makes me feel loved. Whereas acts or service have a lesser impact on my heart, as much as I do appreciate you mowing the lawn.
That’s not to say we don’t appreciate all the love languages on some level, but cooking a 4 hour meal might not translate to love for everyone.
Have you ever thought about how you WANT to be loved?
How you NEED to be loved.
How you FEEL loved.
Have you ever spoken with your partner about this, and found out what love language makes them feel the most loved?
What that looks like for both of you? Why you need that? What it feels like for each of you?
I discovered that my partner feels the most loved, when I compliment him.
Like telling him he is the best boyfriend in the world, saying ‘hey handsome’ when I see him, and expressing to him my appreciation for what he is good at.
I learned that his love language is words of affirmation.
He doesn’t really feel loved if I spend 4 hours in the kitchen, even though we both appreciate good food. He wants to be seen.
My partner has learned that I view love as quality time. I feel the most loved when we spend time together. Good times, interesting conversation, sexy time.
For example, when we go out to dinner and his attentions are solely on me. Or when he puts on a mer tail and swims with me.
Knowing each other’s love languages will help you to love each other in ways that you both feel loved and appreciated.
Because loving someone the way you want to be loved, doesn’t always work.
My partner and I view, and feel love so differently. But you know what? This is normal for couples, and you can spend the rest of your life learning how to love each other better.
If you want more information on Love Languages and how to improve your relationship, book a coaching session with me. I’m available online or in Bedfordview and Benoni.
WhatsApp 0833613255 Candice Baker-The Mermaid Life Coach
So we made it through the witch trials, women of power and healing burned at the stake. Naturopaths, herbalists, midwives, all a threat to the patriarchy and all sentenced to death. Women collaborating against women, pointing fingers away from themselves in fear. Too much water in the well, must be a witch. Not enough crop growth, must be a witch. The theme of too little or too much playing out through the centuries. Wise women persecuted by men, wild women persecuted by women. The only path to safety embodied in the mundane. Women learned that there is shelter in mediocrity.
But has it really changed? Or are the underlying thought patterns of control and fear still there? Women are still being policed, their wings still clipped, their power still stolen from them. And it starts at school. If you were around in the eighties, you would remember the school panty inspection. Oh yes, the panty police was a thing. We had to lift up our skirts to check whether we were wearing the regulation school brookie. Apart from the gross privacy violation, there was this idea that boys could not control themselves, so the girls had to be strictly controlled instead.And this idea persists today.
Not much has changed in this new century. Enter the year 2015 and girls get picked out in front of the whole class for wearing black bras. Aside from the fact that black actually shows through less than white, she must be some kind of scarlet woman to be wearing such a colour under her clothing. And to discuss the colour of her underwear in front of an entire class of boys, to embarass her and violate her rights in such a public way is inexcusable. Women victimizing girls.
Women’s bodies have always fallen under the control of others. Owned by the patriarchy and not themselves. Wrinkled old men deciding on women’s rights to this day in first world countries. Persecution by the gusset Gestapo should your stocking be showing. Women not allowed into temples. Women banned from holy places when they are bleeding and considered unclean. It seems even periods are policed. The vilification of the yoni has continued through the centuries, because to acknowledge the opposite would be to acknowledge the power of women.
As a dance instructor I have recieved so many comments about outfits that show too much, yet every private part is covered. Do a split in a tutu and you are a graceful and gifted ballerina. Do a split on the pole in hot pants and everybody loses their minds. Asking a dancer to cover up is like asking Chad le Clos to swim in baggies, it cannot be done. It shouldn’t be done. It restricts movement in impossible ways, and ruins the aeathetic. Oh how society loves to brand a woman in scarlet, for nothing more than what could be implied in their minds. Because it was what was in your mind that was inciting lust, while everyone else was appreciating her beautiful long legged splits.
Perform in a magnificent set of fire wings, with fire fans, in an outfit layered white hotpants, white miniskirt, long white lace skirt surrounded by 20 flames. A stunt requiring courage, experience and risk management. But there is always one who will be horrified that the dancers were showing their vaginas to the crowd. The one with the x-ray vision, who could see their lady parts through 3 layers of clothing, in the dark. My what a rich and vivid imagination she must have. A vision so sharp that she could not see the fire, not appreciate the show, not zoom out or away from that place between their thighs. I suspect another 3 layers would have made little difference to such a piercing and judgemental gaze.
So there the dancer is, performing magnificent stunts with her body requiring years of blood /sweat/tears, all her efforts reduced to flashing her imagined genitalia. A total denigration of talent into filth by a tormented psyche. Are your glasses tinted by roses or filth? A vagina lurking under every rock ready to pounce. A fear, bred into women over the centuries. A threat wielded by the patriarchy to keep the feminine form covered.
2000 years later and the woman will still be burned at the stake. Acid thrown on her face for rejecting a male suitor. Forced to marry her rapist to restore her honour. Child brides for paedophiles.
Surely we have more important things to worry about than the implied shape of a woman’s body? Surely in this era women deserve the same freedom as their male counterparts? We may joke about a Speedo, or a mankind, but is it vilified? Nope. Whilst the shadow of a yoni or a breast is shamed in public but praised in private. Bought, sold, stolen. But never to be given for free without shame.
Perhaps our focus should be on creating a safe space for freedom. Freedom of expression. Freedom of choice. Freedom from policing the bodies of women.
Women reclaiming their power, their creative force, the sacredness of their inner temple. Their yoni, the spark of life, the sacred feminine within. Women supporting women and men creating safety. Remembering the goddess within, holding ourselves in high regard, and not shrinking into shame. Because our bodies are not shameful, they are worthy of respect and admiration.
No, the yoni is not the divine feminine, the goddess is, and she lives within each of us. Within our yoni, within our womb, within our hearts, our minds, our souls. And she demands respect.
Let’s bleed out the poison and grow a community of respect and sovereignty, not fear, together.
I am a life coach and wellness coach, with a special interest in relationships and woman empowerment. T/DR Candice Baker 00013133614 You can book a session with me on WhatsApp +0027833613255
NEVER SHOW A MAN YOUR BOOBS & YOUR BRAIN AT THE SAME TIME!
Unless you want him to bust out in a sweat, springs and cogs bursting out of his ears, that is! Society has created a lot of broken toys. But this isn’t just about men. I have a lot of experience in this area, life-long experience, and it’s been showing up a lot in the reactions I get to my writing. It’s called cognitive dissonance, and it makes people feel quite uncomfortable. Let me explain: Cognitive dissonance is when you expect to feel one way about something, but find yourself feeling something different. This is partly because we use stereotypes to take mental shortcuts, it’s easier than assessing each person or situation from scratch.
So when you meet a pretty blonde, you might be really amazed that she loves to mountain climb (if you bothered to ask). Or when you meet a tattooed biker, it might confuse you that he loves to cook. Models? Naturally stupid of course! But here’s the thing, that woman on your Facebook in her tiny bikini on the pole might actually be a doctor, just enjoying the freedom and body positivity of pole fitness. (While your mind went straight to stripper)
So when we meet people we tend to put them in a box, especially women. We make a lot of assumptions based on their clothing, their face, their body or how they show up in our social media feed. And we expect them to behave according to the labels we assigned to them.
But here’s the thing…Just because she is in touch with her body or her sensuality, does not mean she is issuing invitations. And this is where the confusion, or cognitive dissonance can get ugly. The slut won’t chat to you in her DMs, so you send her a rude message after your first sleazy attempts fail. (Hey, WUD?….Hey, nice pussy…. Honey I think I love you…FU bitch, nobody wants you anyway). Except maybe she isn’t what you perceived her to be, and you’re the problem? I have lived some of these. Hell, I have put out an ad for yoga instructor training and gotten a dick pic in reply to the advert, even where there was no sexy photo!
So why does this keep happening? You get 3 types of people, in my experience.
Those who embrace the surprising truth. They think it’s cool that you can have a degree and be a model.
Those who will ignore anything that doesn’t fit their framework. (The one they put you in without letting you know about it.) These people will scroll past faster than you can spin the wheel of fortune.
And then lastly you get those who will have a reaction. They might get curious, and pick up the phone or send you a message wanting to know more about what you do. And when this happens everybody learns something. You learn how you are perceived by others, they will need to get that lecture off their chest. And then if you’re not too offended to carry on with the conversation they will learn how their judgements were out of place.*
*But then there’s the other side of that coin, the knee jerk reaction. Sometimes it seems like nothing enrages a man more than a sexy photo paired with a well written article about relationships or women’s wellness. Or a woman who loves that you are a mermaid but is completely shocked when you grow legs and climb a pole (I didn’t sign up for this. I’m unfollowing you.) The cognitive dissonance can be immense and extremely upsetting for some people. Men, particularly the ones who ‘know’ what roles a woman should play in society, will start to lash out if you don’t conform to certain roles. Madonna, maiden, mother, whore, crone…you know the stereotypes I’m speaking of. To step out of these boundaries placed on women by the patriarchy can be anathema to these guys. The burlesque dancer with a PhD. The model with the import business. The pretty blonde with her own mansion on the hill. Self-made women, outspoken women, independent women who somehow are expected to look and act like men because of their many talents and skills. Or quite simply the older woman who is still sexy and vibrant instead of knowing her place as expired milk, because ageing is a sin on social media. (I have received this particular insult, somebody didn’t get enough breast feeding I suspect).
We all know we cannot please everyone, and some of us will still try. But ladies, you are more than your boob job! Your body does not define you. Neither does your face, it’s merely a trick of nature. So wear the outfit, even if it does raise eyebrows. Dye your hair, take the course, book the solo plane ticket. Because only you get to decide how you are going to live your life. Don’t try to live it for other people, most are unsatisfiable. Express yourself and be authentically you, because the world needs to hear your message. And other women need to see women living their lives unapologetically and free. Become the wild woman that you were intended to be, and your tribe will find you.
This is your solemn duty to the evolution of womankind. And as for your dude, find one who supports this personal growth, not one who keeps you in that damn box. Find friends who cheer for you, support you and show up for you. There is a reason that woman’s gatherings have been banned throughout the centuries, and it is this. These women will be your tribe, and together you will rise.
I am a traditional doctor, life coach & wellness coach. You can book an appointment on WhatsApp 0833613255
What type of love are you looking for? The convenient type, where you need somebody to rebound on? The let’s-keep-it-casual-use-and-abuse kinda hookup? Or the mind blowing soul shaking head over heels ride of your life?
Many people have asked me how to bag their guy or gal, and my answer is generally to be the most authentic version of you (otherwise you’ll run into problems when your halo slips, dear). The other thing is this: Focus on attracting your mate and not chasing them. Performance, sure, but being-your-authentic-self kinda performance. Play to your strengths, don’t just make shit up to impress. In fact, don’t upload your best pics onto Hinge, let’s keep it real so the dude actually recognises you when you meet for coffee!
And then be honest with yourself before you start chasing somebody who is not asking you out, ladies. If he’s not asking you out, he’s not that into you. Sure you can ask him out, but if there is stalling, or ghosting after your big date, it’s time to move along, missy.
If he’s not calling you, he is sending you a message all the same. He is not that into you. Or he’s a game player and you’ll never be sure where you stand with him. And that doesn’t sound like that soul shaking love that you are craving, now does it? More like a power play with Pina Colada flavoured condoms.
So you got your hair did, fixed your lashes and skipped buying a new dress because your budget just went up in flames. You showed up to that date a thousand bucks poorer, and he asked you to split the bill? Let me tell you a secret, sweetheart… If he’s not romancing you, he’s not that into you. Why are you going all out to impress when he can’t even stick you for a Wimpy burger?
Or maybe you’ve been dating a while and he’s not having sex with you like he used to? Well maybe his interest is lying elsewhere. Or perhaps he is so secure in his relationship with you that he decided he didn’t need to make an effort in the bedroom anymore? Doesn’t sound like a keeper to me! If intimacy isn’t replacing the romance, he’s got one foot out the door honey.
And if he’s cheating, well read the above paragraph again, sis. Does he really think he has enough energy, or charm, to keep two women happy? Or is it only his own happiness that he is concerned about? Because let’s face it, you can skip from one honeymoon phase to the next, or juggle three at a time (no wonder he needs you to split the bill), or you can stay when things get tough and apply that same effort to your current relationship. And don’t get me started on the dishonesty, how do you build a strong foundation on lies?
If you’re his drunken booty call, friends with benefits is probably all its ever gonna be, babe. If you’re starting off in friendship jail, chances are very slim that you’re in for an upgrade. So unless you’re down with being a placeholder, lose his number!
So he’s not into marriage … Is that because he is a modern man who can still provide safety and security for the woman he loves, without the constraints of religion? Or is it because he’s an emotionally bankrupt manchild who needs you around for his dopamine hit and a speedy exit? But not for co-creating a life together? Hmm… Not so mysterious and lone wolf now, is he?
If he breaks up (and then makes up) with you for the slightest issue, he’s not that into you hun. He is manipulating you to get his way, or just using you as a convenience. So if you’re wanting true love, one that can weather the storms and catch you when you fall, this ain’t it.
So you had a perfect night out and an even better shag.. but now he seems to have lost your number? Disappearing on you is all the answer you need, queen. He no longer values you. It’s a tough one, but chasing after him will only make him drop his opinion of you further. It’s one of those double standards that women will experience in the dating game, and it’s totally rude and unfair. But no less true, so adjust your crown and book your yoni steam, because that one was a slave to the patriarchy.
Or if he’s married or unavailable – he’s definitely not that into you in any meaningful way. Also, he’s not that into HER either. But plenty into himself, so perhaps it’s time to raise your standards and find someone who only has eyes for you. You are worth so much more than this, so call back your energy and invest it in your own happiness.
And that brings me to the selfish jerk, you know, that guy who only has time for himself and only does what pleases him? Doesn’t sound like a future to me? Or perhaps a very lonely and unfilled one. With no quality time now and no common ground to share later.
Or how about the one who becomes a bully when he doesn’t get his way… Please remember your wants and needs are important too. And if he is bullying you for sex, your sacred NO is more important than anything else. You don’t need to stand for bad behaviour or coersion. Stand in your power and don’t let the door hit him on the way out.
And that brings me to the really big freak! Let’s face it, people get bored, and sometimes plain wierd when they get older, especially without a partner to keep them accountable. If he’s asking to share you with someone else, he’s not that into you. And if he’s trying to twist your arm to do some wierd sexual shit…just run, hun. You never have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable. So if toe sucking isn’t your thing, send him off to fetish.com and be done with him. (Yes, it’s a real dating site, no I don’t have a problem with it.) Not everyone is compatible where it counts the most. So that’s a great way to find your kinky match without making your vanilla partner squirm in her boots, dude. Because that kind of pressure is just not cool.
So if it’s lip trembling, knee shaking, soul affirming love you’re after, take a good look at what you’re putting out there. Attract your mate to the qualities you naturally possess and cut out the fake. And then keep your standards high, know your worth and don’t accept anything less.
I am a Holistic Life Coach, Relationship Coach and Wellness Coach based in Joburg, SA. I specialise in working with women, empowering them to reach their wildest potential. Whether it’s insight into your love life or a personal wellness goal you need to reach, I’m there for you every step of the way. And if your a guy, you’re welcome too 😊
There is a lot of talk about the divine feminine and masculine. Or the embodied feminine and masculine. Speaking from a woman’s perspective, the masculine in a love relationship needs to embody structure. He needs to show groundedness, be consistent and provide stability. From the evolutionary perspective, men are wired to serve and protect. Just take a look at the meat suit, compared to that of a woman’s. Huge hands, thick arms and long legs. Wide shoulders and Lats. In return, a woman shares her softness with her man, her nurturing and loving nature and body. She becomes relaxed and opens like a flower. She is designed for providing solace, to allow him to pour his devotion into her, and share her wide hips, her round breasts and loving arms.
In today’s society, this can become very confusing. Women are being taught to be providers in their own right, and men are hesitant to open doors or be chivalrous in case of backlash. Women are liberated and independent, but that does not mean she wants to stand alone. The problem is, if he is passive or inconsistent, a woman’s nervous system will be activated. She needs clarity and consistency to feel secure. So a man who feels unable to assert himself in a relationship with a financially empowered woman might feel redundant. Or disconnected from an emotionally wise woman if he cannot meet her with his genuine self expression. And the woman might feel neglected, and retreat into the safety of emotional shutdown if her partner cannot rise to her emotional needs. While a man who feels empowered to make her his priority will help her feel safe and supported. Yes, she can do all the things for herself, but she shouldn’t have to if she is in a conscious partnership.
If her man does not embody the traits of safety, consistency and reliability, she goes into survival mode. This is because women experience inconsistency as a form of abandonment. If she cannot rely on a partner for this stability, she will withdraw and create her own safe environment. Or she might feel needy, get critical, even angry. Reaching out will sound like nagging or bossiness to an avoidant male. She might feel insecure or attacked or even try to manipulate the situation to achieve a consistent outcome in an effort to regain a sense of control over her environment. Because if he cannot provide leadership, she will step up and take the reigns out of necessity.
Whichever happens, without this feeling of safety, predictability and security, the feminine will not be able to be soft or surrendered. She will not relax, let her guard down or flourish in her natural nurturing state. Survival mode will make her reactive, tough as nails and embody her masculine. The passive male will recieve the fierce and defensive warrior instead of the sensual goddess energy that he craves.
So the balance lies in consistency, reliability and safety from him so that she can relax and allow herself to bloom. Meet her half way and in return she will nurture and support her partner with her body and mind. She will exhale. It is the balance of complimentary roles that is needed, afterall…who needs 2 alpha males in a relationship? .
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Ladies, my posts are for YOU. I spend a good amount of time deleting any unwanted male energy from my profile. So why the sexy images? If you are triggered by these, let me tell you my story.
I was an awkward child, shy and without many friends. If my one and only friend skipped primary school, I would sit alone at break and read my book. I still love reading today, and it has made my journey as an author so much easier too
When I got to high school, I decided a re-brand was in order. I forced myself to come out of my shell, I made as many friends as I could, and I learned how to speak to boys. And you know what happened? The boys liked me too much, and the girls became competitive, bitchy, insecure (let’s face it). Rumours, accusations, even threats of physical violence. Jeez I hated high school! Women are taught at a young age to hate on other women, to slut shame other women, simply because some dude thinks they are pretty or interesting.
I started modelling at 16, mostly to improve my self esteem. My parents did not understand what I was trying to do, “fake it till you make it”, ya know what I mean? So they weren’t very supportive and there was a lot of criticism. My mother would continually tell me that beauty comes from inside. And she was right, of course, in her own way. At the end of the day we need to focus on our inner selves as well. Find a balance, and the path to self appreciation.
But here’s the thing, I got the psychology degree, the 2 kids, the divorce because I didn’t play small. I got the life coaching diploma, the pole dancing studio, the yoga qualifications. As women we need to come back to wholeness. To self love. To balance. Integrating the yin and the yang. Pole dance and burlesque really helped me with self love and appreciation. The kind you can’t get from the outside. From your bored husband or your wandering boyfriend. Yes, beauty is on the inside, and learning self love is the greatest journey you will ever embark on. But woman have been taught to suppress their sensuality, their goddess energy. To bow under the judgement of others and douse their inner fire.
Even as an adult, there is pressure to play it down. But being a safe woman does not mean being a small woman. Be out there, by all means, just don’t take someone else’s husband along for the ride! And ladies, we are here to support each other and Iift each other up. There should not be competition between strong, or wild women. This woman does not need your man. And let’s be real here for a second. You cannot steal a man who is not willing to be stolen, unless you brought your cable ties and duct tape.
Women are not just maidens, mothers, whores, crones. We are ALL of these things. And to be a highly functioning woman, a fully integrated embodiment of the divine feminine, we need to embrace all of these aspects of ourselves. Honour our bodies and our needs in a relationship that sees us in all our aspects, or in our sovereign single state.
So if my posts are provoking an uncomfortable reaction in you, perhaps we could chat about how to integrate these more sensual aspects into your psyche. How to embrace all that you can be, and stop playing small. You are not just somebody’s girlfriend, somebody mother. You are not a washed up ok crone. You are an enchantress, a goddess full of life and love. Do not apologise for your roar, lioness.
I am a life coach and relationship coach. You can book a session on WhatsApp 0833613255
So my partner and I have had a few ‘discussions’ about this….some calmer than others! Some people are not into social media, which can be a problem if one partner is. Your partner might not understand why you are on your phone so much, but it’s not necessarily doom scrolling. Sometimes it’s marketing, or content creation. Or selecting a playlist or googling an article. But if your partner has a different kind of job, one that ends at 5pm, or one where they are not internet based, they might not understand what you are doing on there all the time! It doesn’t mean you are addicted to your phone, as many things can be operated from there. So it’s important to set boundaries with social media, for example no phones after dinner. Your clients can wait till office hours, it’s a healthy boundary to set. Or offer a quick explanation, for example, I’m checking my bank balance so I can recharge the prepaid meter. This should minimise the annoyance your partner might feel about your screen time, imagining you are scrolling rather than spending time with them.
Also, social media breeds comparison, it sets impossible standards that are not real. For example, I get embarassed when I do a birthday post or a gratitude post for my partner when he doesn’t respond. What will people think, is this a one sided relationship? But the truth is he is not on social media much, so I have to tell him to go and look at what I wrote. And if he wants to show me his appreciation he will make me something with his hands, or show up with a chocolate.
Social media is the equivalent of public displays of affection, which we all crave, but that doesn’t make it real, it can be quite the opposite in fact! You see people gushing over their partner and separated the next day. Its performance and not reality.
So set some rules of engagement, some healthy boundaries, and communicate more. It will go a long way in your relationship.
I am a life coach and wellness coach, with a special interest in relationships and woman empowerment. You can book a session with me on WhatsApp 0833613255
There has been a lot of talk about conscious relationships, and one of the key ingredients is the ability to talk about our feelings. And then how to respond without defensiveness.
My partner of 6 years once told me he has never discussed his feelings before in a relationship. Never spoken about sex, or any of the other things that come up for us. He has had 3 long relationships, yet never felt able or challenged to share his feelings. And the sad part is this is true for many men, taught to suppress their feelings.
There are 3 phases in a relationship, and I would like to expand on this concept.
The audition phase. This is where you show up as your best (and most unrealistic) self. A charade that hooks your partner, but is unsustainable. Or rather disintegrates into complacency.
The shadow boxing stage. This is where the love hormones begin to fade and the gremlins come out. Most couples never make it out of this phase, trading up or trading in for another partner. And so the cycle begins again.
The co-creation phase. This is where you learn to heal and respond to each other’s shadows in a constructive way, to build something meaningful that goes beyond the oxytocin, the sex, the anger and resentment. This is where you build a future, co-create a life that you both desire, and create a safe space for each other to express your emotions and design a relationship that elevates both partners to even more growth. Both of these things are not easy to do at first, but will help you grow through the icky phase into a better version of you as a couple.
It may be uncomfortable, it may be hard, but with the right partner it is worth it. So, are you addicted to oxytocin, jumping ship when things get rough…forever chasing that love hormone? Or are you in it for the full rollercoaster ride, and maybe, just maybe, with the right person….you will co-create something beautiful.
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There is nothing quite like watching your daughter getting married. Tam and Lance setting off on the adventure of a lifetime after a year of living in different countries.
Witnessing the hope, the purity, the love between them is both humbling and inspiring.
Just imagine if we could keep that feeling forever. Beyond the oxytocin Beyond the chemistry Beyond the storms
The good news is that you possibly can. Most relationships suffer from basic maintenance. You know how he used to buy flowers and you used to tell him he’s the best boyfriend in the world?
But then you both got busy, Kids, work, family stuff. And then suddenly you are wondering when the flame went out? Why you’re both unfulfilled?
Try a little bit of daily maintenance…
The coffee in bed, the lingering kiss, the 20 second hug when you walk in the door. Small things, holding her hands or resting yours on her lower back Cooking a favourite meal Date night All the little things you did naturally in the beginning. ❤️ My wish for you is a lifetime of love and happiness. May your infinity knot stay forever tied Lance & Tam
