Tag: Screentime

SOCIAL MEDIA MANIA

So my partner and I have had a few ‘discussions’ about this….some calmer than others!
Some people are not into social media, which can be a problem if one partner is.
Your partner might not understand why you are on your phone so much, but it’s not necessarily doom scrolling.
Sometimes it’s marketing, or content creation. Or selecting a playlist or googling an article.
But if your partner has a different kind of job, one that ends at 5pm, or one where they are not internet based, they might not understand what you are doing on there all the time!
It doesn’t mean you are addicted to your phone, as many things can be operated from there.
So it’s important to set boundaries with social media, for example no phones after dinner. Your clients can wait till office hours, it’s a healthy boundary to set.
Or offer a quick explanation, for example, I’m checking my bank balance so I can recharge the prepaid meter. This should minimise the annoyance your partner might feel about your screen time, imagining you are scrolling rather than spending time with them.

Also, social media breeds comparison, it sets impossible standards that are not real.
For example, I get embarassed when I do a birthday post or a gratitude post for my partner when he doesn’t respond. What will people think, is this a one sided relationship?
But the truth is he is not on social media much, so I have to tell him to go and look at what I wrote.
And if he wants to show me his appreciation he will make me something with his hands, or show up with a chocolate.

Social media is the equivalent of public displays of affection, which we all crave, but that doesn’t make it real, it can be quite the opposite in fact!
You see people gushing over their partner and separated the next day. Its performance and not reality.

So set some rules of engagement, some healthy boundaries, and communicate more. It will go a long way in your relationship.

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