Candice Baker Life Coach

Tag: Quality time

  • How The 777 Rule Can Save Your Relationship

    HOW THE 777 RULE CAN SAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP

    How the 777 Rule can save your relationship 💓

    Most relationships go through difficult patches, uninspired patches, emotional lows. The 777 rule is a relationship framework designed to keep marriages or long-term partnerships strong by prioritizing intentional quality time.

    So if you’re feeling unexcited, uninspired or disconnected from your partner, why not try the 777 rule? The first step is to have a discussion about it to avoid disappointment and make sure you’re on the same page. Be honest about your feelings and needs, the room mate phase can be brutal if one of you is feeling rejected or unappreciated.

    It consists of three habits:
    Every 7 days have a date night
    Every 7 weeks take a night away
    Every 7 months plan a romantic getaway. This structure helps couples reconnect, break routines, and maintain intimacy.

    Core Components of the 777 Rule:
    Every 7 Days (Date Night): Regular, uninterrupted time together. It does not need to be expensive or out of the house; it can be a “table time” chat, a movie night, or a meal without distractions.

    Every 7 Weeks (Overnight Trip): A mini-getaway such as a night in a local hotel or a weekend camping trip, to step away from daily responsibilities.

    Every 7 Months (Vacation): A more extended trip to focus entirely on each other, providing a deeper chance for connection, adventure, or relaxation.

    The 777 rule tackles the lack of time that can cause relationships to fade by making togetherness a consistent, scheduled priority. It also gives the male partner the opportunity to take the lead in building intimacy in the relationship, something the woman usually craves and reaches for.

    It is designed to be flexible, focusing on the intention of connecting, rather than strict, expensive, or complex plans. Quality time which can encourage a deeper connection emotionally and physically.

    Above all else, keep the lines of communication open. Make sure you are both on board, it can be very disappointing if your partner fails to follow through on date night. Perhaps discuss taking turns to ‘treat’ one another. A lack of quality time is one of the easiest things to repair if both of you are willing, and it will bring great rewards to your relationship.

    I am a holistic Life Coach, traditional Doctor and Relationship Coach.
    Get in touch with me to book a session on my WhatsApp line.
    +27 83 263 5569

    “Your most inspired life is crafted element by element”

  • Love Languages & Understanding Your Partner.

    LOVE LANGUAGES & UNDERSTANDING YOUR PARTNER

    I don’t often do personal posts, but here we are!
    What’s your love language?
    Have you ever felt that the things you do for your partner are unappreciated? No matter how much effort you put into them?
    That’s because we all wish to be loved in different ways!
    But it goes deeper than that, we simply don’t recognise certain things as acts of love, because of how we are wired.

    For example, my love language is ‘quality time’, I don’t like it if you whip out your phone at dinner. Undivided attention from my partner has the biggest impact for me and makes me feel loved.
    Whereas acts or service have a lesser impact on my heart, as much as I do appreciate you mowing the lawn.

    That’s not to say we don’t appreciate all the love languages on some level, but cooking a 4 hour meal might not translate to love for everyone.

    Have you ever thought about how you WANT to be loved?

    How you NEED to be loved.

    How you FEEL loved.

    Have you ever spoken with your partner about this, and found out what love language makes them feel the most loved?

    What that looks like for both of you?
    Why you need that?
    What it feels like for each of you?

    I discovered that my partner feels the most
    loved, when I compliment him.

    Like telling him he is the best boyfriend in the world, saying ‘hey handsome’ when I see him, and expressing to him my appreciation for what he is good at.

    I learned that his love language is words of affirmation.

    He doesn’t really feel loved if I spend 4 hours in the kitchen, even though we both appreciate good food. He wants to be seen.

    My partner has learned that I view love as quality time.
    I feel the most loved when we spend time together. Good times, interesting conversation, sexy time.

    For example, when we go out to dinner and his attentions are solely on me. Or when he puts on a mer tail and swims with me.

    Knowing each other’s love languages will help you to love each other in ways that you both feel loved and appreciated.

    Because loving someone the way you want to be loved, doesn’t always work.

    My partner and I view, and feel love so differently. But you know what? This is normal for couples, and you can spend the rest of your life learning how to love each other better.

    If you want more information on Love Languages and how to improve your relationship, book a coaching session with me. I’m available online or in Bedfordview and Benoni.

    WhatsApp 0833613255
    Candice Baker-The Mermaid Life Coach

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