HOW DO YOU RESOLVE CONFLICTS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
Hopefully not with a jolly good spanking, as this cop style hat might suggest!
The truth is it is very seldom a peaceful and productive discussion.
Emotions run hot, tempers flare, and words are thrown around like weapons.
But here is the truth behind human conflict. Each fight is either going to leave you better off, or chip away at your self esteem and your relationship.
A disagreement with a compatible partner will result in changed behaviour and accountability.
A disagreement with a toxic partner will result in a bigger problem.
How do you ever relax with a person who is unpredictable and edgy, where you are constantly bracing for impact, never knowing where it’s coming from next?
How do you ever let your guard down when they will attack you with no warning about something small and unexpected?
A healthy relationship means talking about things as calmly as possible. It means discussing only one problem at a time and agreeing on a resolution.
It does not mean attacking your partner, putting them on the defensive and spewing abuse and toxicity.
It does not mean weaponising everything your partner said in moments of trust and vulnerability, so that you can twist the knife and ‘win’ the arguement.
Because the truth is you only win if you take your partner with you to the finish line.
You only win if you can solve a problem with mutual respect.
You only win if you can provide a safe space for each other emotionally.
It’s not a power struggle, pushing buttons like a pro to send your partner over the edge.
It’s not about manipulation.
It’s not about gas lighting.
It’s not about open warfare, it’s about reaching a deeper understanding.
It’s about owning your feelings and your screw ups, and finding out how to make amends.
Otherwise you’re breaking more than you’re fixing, and one day there won’t be anything left.
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Candice Baker Life Coach 